*Trigger Warning: Infertility, miscarriage, medical diagnoses, divorce, death, trauma mentioned*
Do you remember when you hit a 5 year milestone (positive or negative) of some sort in your life? Maybe it was 5 years at a job, losing a loved one or friend, 5 years of marriage, since the doctor walked in with a sentence that changed your life forever, your firstborn going to Kindergarten, suffering through the effects from a traumatic event, hitting a financial goal or something else. It seems that 5 years just seems to solidify something or feels like a great accomplishment.
Well, today is that day for me and it is so surreal. This season for me has been filled with disappointment, fear, hopelessness, anger, jealousy, anxiety, hope, feelings of paralyzing sadness, gratefulness, depression, and the list could go on. I never imagined five years ago (or even before that for that matter) that I’d be sitting here writing this blog post but I’ve come to learn that this is part of God’s story for my life. If I can point people to Jesus through sharing my story, then I’ve found an opportunity to serve and encourage others despite my pain.
A quick recap of the last 5 years of my life: 2 miscarriages, a house fire, infertility, treatments, health issues for my husband, a pandemic, growing a small business (actually kinda like 3 of them), a lot of life transitions and month after month of sadness when my cycle started again.
You might be thinking, “Gosh Danielle, this is kinda depressing and I’ve had enough emotional turmoil as of late.” Don’t worry, here comes the good part!
While I still wake up to a quiet and still house without the squeaky voice of a sweet babe or the pitter patter of their little feet navigating their way to my side of the bed, I wake up closer to God and with a desire to point others to Him and encourage them during their time on this earth. I’ve learned more about myself in this season than I ever imagined I could during the difficulties I’ve faced.
Here are just a few things I’ve learned:
- God’s unwavering support
- God-given courage to face my fears (daily challenge)
- Strength that was not mine in my hardest and darkest moments
- Importance of community and deep, strong & edifying relationships
- Relinquishing control of the things I can’t control (which is a lot!)
- Greater understanding of God’s purpose for my life and experiences (still a work in progress)
- Grace is something I really need to be more willing to give myself just as I do to those around me
- Home can be a place of safety and security when it feels like everything around you seems to be spiraling into the unknown
- I’m blessed with a caring, encouraging and strong husband that has walked this road with me all while facing the things God has challenged him with in his life and leading a large group of employees/team members (65+ people—yea, not me!)
- and much, much more (I’ll share more in coming posts)!
While we continue to wait on God’s timing to grow our family, I’m grateful for all he is doing in our lives and am praying for wisdom on how to make the most of this extra time we have as just the two of us. We also are still learning to yield control over to God with this part of our lives (and others) but we continue to see how God is using the time we have as a couple to our advantage.
My prayer is that if you are facing what seems like an uphill battle that you would go to the greatest leader of them all, God and rely on Him to get you through. Give yourself grace when you fall short of your own expectations and extend that to those you love and your enemies.
Blessings,
Danielle